People Reveal The Things They Hate About Staying At Other Peoples' Houses
People Reveal The Things They Hate About Staying At Other Peoples' Houses
[rebelmouse-image 18355393 is_animated_gif=Most of us have what we call our comfort zone and for many our physical comfort zone is in our own home. But inevitably at some point we end up having to leave home and spend the night elsewhere. And sometimes that includes invading someone else's home. It can be an uncomfortable and anxiety inducing situation.
Reddit user Another_Weeaboo asked "What do you hate most about spending the night (or longer) at someone else's house?"
Here's what people liked least about being a houseguest.
Not My Brand
[rebelmouse-image 18355394 is_animated_gif=They inevitably have weird milk. Even the same brand and % that I drink always tastes bad at someone else's house.
Everyone's refrigerator has different organization and smells different.
Social Caterpillar
[rebelmouse-image 18352484 is_animated_gif=I get pretty bad social anxiety, it's the feeling that I can't relax. The only time that I can truly relax is when I'm home alone.
Best Friend is Home Alone
[rebelmouse-image 18355395 is_animated_gif=My dog isn't there with me. I can leave him to go to work, sure, but leaving him overnight? It always breaks my heart.
Hiding Place
[rebelmouse-image 18355396 is_animated_gif=The constant worry that they'll find out I'm there.
TBS
[rebelmouse-image 18355397 is_animated_gif=I get up to pee a lot (I'm fine, it's been like this since I was a kid). Makes me so self conscious of getting up. At a hotel it's great, but at someone's house I always get so nervous about getting up five times and waking people up.... I hate it.
Finding Mr. Sandman
[rebelmouse-image 18355398 is_animated_gif=Trying to sleep.
I'm already an insomniac. Adding the discomfort of a strange bed and unfamiliar surroundings doesn't help.
Bedding Down
[rebelmouse-image 18355367 is_animated_gif=The guest bed and all it's accoutrements. There have been so many times I have slept at someone's house and they have the thinnest blankets known to mankind. The house is always freezing too. I once bought a small comforter to fix the situation. Then they got mad that I just didn't ask them for another blanket. Hey dude, I didn't know your house dropped 40 degrees between the hours of 2-5am and I don't feel right waking you up for that.
Bad Guest
[rebelmouse-image 18355399 is_animated_gif=Well, when I would crash at a friend's house when I was a teen, it was usually because we got trashed. So it was always the worst getting the stink eye from the guy's parents while they reluctantly make you breakfast. "Here's an egg, get out of my house".
No Thank You, I'll Pass
[rebelmouse-image 18355400 is_animated_gif=Generally feeling uncomfortable because I'm not in control of anything. If I'm at home and I want a cup of coffee, I make it. I know exactly where the coffee is, how to use the machine, and I don't need anyone's permission. At someone else's house, you have to ask, "Is it OK if I make coffee?" And then you have to figure out where everything is and how everything works.
This idea extends to everything. You want to watch something on TV? Well, the hosts are watching Property Brothers or Fox and Friends, hope you like it. You want to get something to eat? The hosts are making tuna casserole for dinner, it'll be ready in two hours, sit tight. Want to do something that only you're interested in? That's rude because you're not including the hosts. And on and on.
I'll gladly pay for a hotel to avoid the awkwardness.
Who Gets to Clean?
[rebelmouse-image 18354170 is_animated_gif=I will always try to do some cleaning. Like I'll wake up before my hosts and I'll clean up the mess we made in the kitchen the night before. Put all the bottles/cans in the bin, take out the trash, do some dishes, wipe down the counter, etc. Then they wake up a little later and it's like, "Ahhh man you didn't have to do that," and they look all embarrassed or something because I'm the guest and I shouldn't have to clean up. Which makes sense I guess but I'm also trying to be a good guest and I hate the idea of somebody else having to clean up after me. So it's just kinda like this awkward thing I do where I guess it makes them feel weird but I can't help doing it.
Scheduling Conflicts
[rebelmouse-image 18355401 is_animated_gif=I used to sleep over a lot and do some couch-surfing, but when traveling now I would always book a hotel, b&b or camping, because I really need my own space and schedule. I like visiting friends, but I don't like to be forced to "entertain" them the entire time. In the future when I have a spare room, friends can come and go as they please and I'll have my own schedule.
Restrained
[rebelmouse-image 18355402 is_animated_gif=The chains are starting to chafe my wrists...also this basement smells like mildew.
Awkward
[rebelmouse-image 18355403 is_animated_gif="Make yourself at home", "You don't need to ask if you want a drink/something to eat, just grab it from the fridge" I will never feel comfortable just taking things out of peoples cupboards and eating/drinking or using them, no matter how many times they say they really don't mind.
Not Entirely Welcome
[rebelmouse-image 18348571 is_animated_gif=Hearing the parents of the friend who I'm staying over with ask my friend "is he really spending the night here?".
So I'm caught between just wanting to go home so their parents won't feel uncomfortable, and staying because my friend went through the trouble to prepare food and other stuff.
Horseback Riding and Tennis
[rebelmouse-image 18352192 is_animated_gif=Getting visited by Aunt Flo, even worse if it's a surprise. When I was like 14 I stained a friend's carpet because we were sitting on the floor. I was mortified.
3rd Wheel
[rebelmouse-image 18355404 is_animated_gif=I was going through a rough patch and a friend let me stay at her and her husband's house. They were great, invited me places. Were cool with just hanging out. Gave me a whole room. Space in the fridge. Didn't even charge me.
I spent every minute I could away from that house and trying to avoid being around them. I'd pop in to sleep, and leave asap in the morning for work. I felt I was intruding on their life, even though they said they were cool with having me around and I believe them. It just felt wrong.
Bathroom Anxiety
[rebelmouse-image 18355406 is_animated_gif=Depending on the house layout, having to poop. I don't mind using other toilets but some of the popular open house layouts have the guest bath right off the living room or kitchen area and not a huge fan of everyone hearing me.
Sensory Sensitive
[rebelmouse-image 18355407 is_animated_gif=I have issues with repetitive sounds or blinking lights. I loathe when people have clocks that I can hear the ticking on when I'm trying to fall asleep. I also can't stand if there's an electronic in the room that lights up and changes at night.
Faucet By NASA
[rebelmouse-image 18355408 is_animated_gif=I hate using other people's showers, not because someone else has been in there, but because I never know how to use it properly. Despite being widespread and nominally mass-produced, every shower seems to be slightly different, meaning that it takes about a good 15 minutes of experimenting before I can actually get it to a good, constant temperature. And no one wants to be the idiot who has to get half-re-dressed to ask for help with the shower.
Other peoples' showers are the WORST. It's always some kind of weird skyrim lock picking type trial to get the water to come out of the correct spout and be the right temperature.
All By Myself
[rebelmouse-image 18355409 is_animated_gif=I need alone time. And I feel weird needing to be alone in someone else's house.
During a stay of a week or longer it's not really an issue. But in a short stay people find it weird if you just want to lock yourself alone in a room for a few hours. Especially if it's someone you are visiting because they feel like they need to smash as much time with you as possible in to however long you are there.
Being around people non-stop is exhausting for me.
Stifled
[rebelmouse-image 18355410 is_animated_gif=Not having control over the the temperature of the house.
Near the end of her life I spent a lot of time at my grandmother's house. I spent the night when I could. One thing that drove me insane was the fact that she kept her thermostat set at 85f (around 29c) and insisted that all of her fans remain turned off. Great. This was during the height of summer in Southeast Florida so it was stifling hot in the house. The fan in the bedroom where I stayed only worked on the slowest setting and that wasn't much help. I had to buy several fans to make sleeping a possibility.
Age Has It's Advantages
[rebelmouse-image 18355411 is_animated_gif=When you wake up and they're still sleeping, you have to pretend that you're still asleep until they're ready to get up.
Admittedly when you become an adult and this happens, you end up not giving a darn and just going about your day as if the house was yours. Make yourself breakfast, shower, grab the newspaper, it's all good past a certain age. You won't even care that you're using someone else's towels once you hit 35!
Animals
[rebelmouse-image 18355412 is_animated_gif=Terrible breakfast choices.
Kashi and skim milk with sunrise blend tea brewed in a microwave?
Gods above and below you people are animals.
Naturalists
[rebelmouse-image 18355413 is_animated_gif=When they don't tell you that no one really wears clothes at their house.
Walk into the living room and their dad's sat in his tighty-whities on the sofa watching TV.
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Woman Was Fired For Refusing To Wear A Bra At Work—And Now She's Suing
Christina Schell, from Alberta, Canada, stopped wearing bras three years ago citing health reasons.
While Schell did not specify the health reasons, she did state she finds them to be "horrible."
But after her refusal to sign or adhere to a new enforced dress code policy to wear a bra or tank top under her work shirt at a golf course grill where she worked, Schell was promptly fired.
Now, the 25-year-old has filed a human rights violation against the Osoyoos Golf Club, Osoyoos, in British Columbia, Canada.
Schell said:
"I don't think any other human being should be able to dictate another person's undergarments."
When she asked the general manager, Doug Robb, why she had to comply, the manager told her the mandate was for her protection.
Robb allegedly said:
"I know what happens in golf clubs when alcohol's involved."
After losing her job, she brought the case to the British Columbia Human Rights Tribunal and told them the club's dress code was discriminatory because the rule didn't apply towards male employees.
Schell told CBC:
"It's gender-based and that's why it's a human rights issue. I have nipples and so do the men."
David Brown, an employment lawyer in Kelowna, BC, said gender-specific dress codes could be viewed as discriminatory under the BC Human Rights Code.
He stated:
"It's an interesting question as to whether or not an employer can dictate the underwear that women can wear, but they don't say anything about the underwear that men can wear, and does that create an adverse impact on the individual?"
Brown added:
"If this policy is found to be discrimination, the next question is does the employer have a bonafide occupational requirement to essentially impose this on the individual?"
"I'm kind of scratching my head as to what that occupational requirement would be."
@GlobalBC The policy is sexist the peopl supporting it are sexist. Hope she wins her complaint— Lori bell (@Lori bell) 1529692660.0
@Shelby_Thom @WoodfordCHNL @GlobalOkanagan @GlobalBC Then men should have to wear either a tank top or undershirt— caffene fiend (@caffene fiend) 1529624161.0
@SoldByBrock @Shelby_Thom @GlobalOkanagan @GlobalBC What does common courtesy have to do with wearing a bra? Breast… https://t.co/ZVI2xDdpgf— M Shumway (@M Shumway) 1529843759.0
As for the tank top option, due to working under oftentimes extreme heat serving tables outsides, Schell did not want to wear another layer of clothes just because of her gender.
Schell said:
"It was absurd. Why do you get to dictate what's underneath my clothes?"
Employment lawyer Nadia Zaman told CBC that the club can enforce a gender-specific policy as they deem necessary as long as the establishment can prove it is for the occupational safety of its workers.
But the attorney questioned if forcing female employees to wear a bra was applicable in this case.
Zaman stated:
"If they simply require that female employees wear a bra but then they don't have a similar requirement for males, and they can't really justify that … then there is a risk that their policy's going to be deemed to be discriminatory."
Under British Columbia's discrimination law, it is illegal for employers:
'to discriminate against any individual because of his race, color, religion, sex, or national origin'.
@GlobalBC @globalnews Logistically bras or the absence of does not impact health or work performance. That is my v… https://t.co/65cLHBMowf— Louisette Lanteigne (@Louisette Lanteigne) 1529769211.0
McDonald's employee Kate Gosek, 19, agrees with Schell in that the dress code is "unnecessary." She too was harassed by her employers at a McDonald's in Selkirk, Manitoba, over refusing to wear a bra.
"She just told me that I should put on a bra because, McDonald's—we are a polite restaurant and no one needs to see that."
Schell's case sparked plenty of debates on Twitter.
@DunnMan77 @GlobalBC It's just discriminatory, woman shouldn't have to wear bras if they don't want to. As well as… https://t.co/RXhRVWUuNy— Mary Johnson (@Mary Johnson) 1529685276.0
@DunnMan77 @GlobalBC Men do not have to wear underpants if they don't want to. As of right now there are no laws to… https://t.co/l8FuPVybWo— Mary Johnson (@Mary Johnson) 1529686418.0
@GlobalBC Women have the right not to be forced to wear a bra Shaving & makeup also is a choice. If you want to do… https://t.co/Ybkj6PLDnD— Lozan (@Lozan) 1529686156.0
@Lozan72 @GlobalBC I would completely understand her and your argument if we were talking about a potential law to… https://t.co/trRyNAubn4— Chris George (@Chris George) 1529690293.0
@GlobalBC This story frustrates me. There's no dress code equivalent for men? Well if I saw the outline of a male s… https://t.co/5YbAvXKRcO— Molly Max (@Molly Max) 1529705327.0
Schell is not alone in her disdain for bras.
@GlobalBC I personally HATE wearing a #bra absolutely hate it with passion and unashamed to admit it. I HATE BEING… https://t.co/GEi3LtxIDa— Lozan (@Lozan) 1529686305.0
Schell is still waiting to hear from the Human Rights Commission about her claim.
H/T - GettyImages, Twitter, Indy100, CBC